A friend recently told me about her sister-in-law's fight with breast cancer. The first round was several years ago, and her reaction was to be feisty, with an in-your-face, "I'm going to beat this!" attitude. She underwent treatment successfully and had a few healthy years, but then the cancer returned. This time her attitude was more relaxed. Her reaction isn't apathy or denial, she's still fighting it, but her approach is coming more from a place of acceptance: "ok, this is what we're doing now."
My friend said that she is trying to approach life in general with this attitude. When things go wrong outside of your control, instead of blowing up and freaking out, just accept it, change directions and move forward. Onward and upward!
I really think this is a great attitude that I am trying to apply in my own life (although I recognize it is often easier said than done). It doesn't mean that you accept bad circumstances or let wrong-doing go without consequence, it means that you accept the situation as it is and determine how to move forward.
The last few years I feel like I, and many of my loved ones, have been slapped in the face with "things don't always turn out the way you plan," and I've learned that life is just that way. And it's not always a bad thing! Sometimes disaster strikes and you've got to pick up the pieces, and sometimes you are met with a super fabulous surprise that you could never even imagine. And in all cases, your experience and reaction will continue to shape who you are (and you don't want to be a miserable, angry person!).
An important part of this approach to life is to build and nurture a support system. I am extremely fortunate to have an amazing support system of friends and family both near and far who have shared my highs and lows (and will continue to!), and I am eternally grateful that my daughter will be able to grow with this support system as well.
Whatever happens, babe, we're all in this together!