Wednesday, October 20, 2010
Let other people be right when it doesn't matter
I once had a discussion with a friend about the location of the JW Marriott Hotel on Oahu. I've stayed there a couple of times, and I know it's on the Western side of the island. He insisted it was on the Eastern side. Although I knew with complete certainty that I was right, I let the topic go. Because, once again, who cares! If he wants to visit Oahu and drive East until he hits the Pacific (and doesn't find the hotel), that's really none of my concern.
The lesson here is, sometimes it makes sense to let other people be right, even when you know in your heart of hearts that they are dead wrong. Discussions and debates can be fun, but when the conversation becomes heated, be the bigger person and let it go. There are times when you should stand your ground, like if you're making an important decision, or trying to keep a loved one from making a very bad decision. But otherwise, do yourself and your blood pressure a favor and move on to the next conversation.
All that being said, if someone who is just plain evil has really gotten under your skin and you can prove that you are right to shut them up, go for it!